I chose this as the title because of two reasons. Besides the obvious fact that it is an oxymoron, first reason is that the typical stereotype of a fat person are as follows:
The reason we did the photo shoot was because after I wrote a blog called “Because I Am Fat, I Can’t Have An Attractive Boyfriend,”
I wanted to show every single ignorant person in society that they are absolutely wrong. So in order to execute my idea, I went to my friend and amazing photographer, Ken Lew. He really liked the idea and wanted to make this work for me.
As we wall know, I am very shy when it comes to taking serious photos. Not because I have LOW SELF ESTEEM, but because I’m not used to actually posing. What I am used to is making goofy faces, and being silly all the time. Never in my life have I actually thought for one second I’d be doing what you usually only see “skinny” girls do.
I think a lot of big girls think that being confident means posting pictures of themselves half naked. I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, I just feel there are ways to show your confidence with your clothes on which I think is fair to say. Being confident is a way of thinking rather than a way of doing. There will be times when you have down days, everyone has them, but the key to confidence is that knowing you are beautiful the way you are, no matter what shape or size your body is. Attractiveness isn’t a set concept, it varies from person to person, it is fluid, not restricted to a specific type of person.
Hopefully some of you think twice about the negativity you feel towards yourself and what you are capable of. Don’t feel limited because people are saying you shouldn’t be able to do what you want or be with who you love because of your size. These pictures were taken to show that you do NOT have to be skinny to be attractive. You do NOT have to be a skinny person to be with a fit person. You should NOT let society make you feel ugly, desperate, label you, or objectify you because being fat does not mean you are worth less than anyone else.
Please visit my friend, and amazing photographer Ken Lew’s page, and LIKE IT! It’d mean so much to me and I’m sure he’d really appreciate it as well!